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What is sexology?
Sexology is the scientific study of human sexuality. It’s a very broad field. Think of all the aspects that sex and sexuality involve and are shaped by: culture, values, attitudes, biology, anatomy, behaviour (healthy and unhealthy), psychology, the media, society, to name a few. Sexology therefore studies and works with all of these aspects and more; to help understand human sexuality in all of its forms.
What is a sexologist?
A sexologist has formal qualifications in the field of sexology at a postgraduate level. Sexologists have a broad understanding of human sexuality and have a sex-positive attitude. They can work in many different fields: psychology, counselling, coaching, research, forensics, law, medicine, community services, and education. Sexologists are comfortable talking about sex and sexuality, and tend be wildly passionate about sharing this with the world (or maybe that’s just me!).
Why would someone want to work with a sexologist?
This would depend on what challenge or difficulty a person or organisation is having. A sexologist can help explore sexual issues within an individual, a couple, or between people or even a service. Sexologists provide not just knowledge, but also a judgement and shame-free safe space to talk about often difficult and sensitive issues. A sexologist can provide sex education to youth and adults (i.e. parents or those wanting to improve their sex lives) and can be an asset in helping to overcome barriers to effective communication about sex and relationship issues.
What is sex coaching? How does it differ to sex therapy?
Great question 🙂 Firstly, neither sex coaching or sex therapy involve having sex with clients. There are services for that (e.g. a sex surrogate) and other more body-focused services (e.g. a sexological body worker or somantic sex therapist). And of course a person can pay another person for sex (e.g. with a sex worker).
A sex (and relationship) coach can work with you to talk about (no touch!) and explore what you would like to change or improve about your sex life.
Perhaps you are struggling with sexual or gender identity, or sexual expression, or sexual difficulties (e.g. erectile dysfunction, anorgasmia (inability to achieve orgasm), vaginismus (painful vaginal penetration due to very tight muscle spasms), and need someone to talk to about this. Both a sex coach and a sex therapist can explore these with you. The key difference is that sex coaching is usually time-limited (i.e. up to 5 sessions) and tends not to work on sexual trauma. Sex coaching is more solution and strength focused, rather than problem focused.
A sex therapist (whether that’s a psychologist, psychiatrist, counsellor or psychotherapist; yes I know it is confusing) is able to explore and process sexual abuse and trauma, usually over a longer period of time. A sex coach can refer someone to work through these issues if need be, and/or can also work in conjunction with a GP to address biological (i.e. hormonal) issues.